Who gives you confidence?

I love reading and learning inspirational stories from the world of sports. They usually contain most of the elements of a good story: a heroine or a hero, a challenge, overcoming the challenge and enjoying the rewards at the end.

Sometimes I also learn about other sports stories in which the hero turns into a villain. Here is one:

Once upon a time, there was a very skillful football player (soccer for those of you reading from America), he was capable of the most wonderful things on the pitch, delivering the pinpoint accurate pass, dribbling past opponents and scoring beautiful goals, all these things were done with grace and ease. However, despite his obvious gifts, he wasn't a regular in the team. He decided to move to a different team in a different country (for a huge transfer fee). Things started to work really well for him again and it appeared that his previous team had made a mistake letting him go. The player certainly made public comments indicating that he wasn't understood by his previous employer.

Shortly after the wonderful start, things turned again and he began to play a reduced number of games or get substituted often. There was some instability in the new team and a change of manager brought back the lost spark. A new beginning with the return of glittering form for the player and success for the team... for a while. By now you may have guessed that the situation repeated itself, we can see there is a pattern in this person's life. He decided to move again, this time returning to his own country. Yet again, he started off playing wonderfully. After six games and 4 goals scored (that's a lot of goals per game) he was able to explain what had gone wrong with his previous team:

He said: "At City, when I was playing, I knew that at some point the substitution board would go up and I was going to come off because the manager didn't have trust in me. Then, you start to lose your confidence on the pitch."

So there it is, very clearly put: it was somebody else's fault if he was not performing to his full potential. He was the victim of someone else's inability to do their job well. he was undervalued and someone had taken away his confidence.

Some of us may feel sympathy for this player and agree with him that SOMEONE ELSE is making big mistakes. That may be so. The questions are:

Who are we allowing to dictate if we are confident or not?

Whose responsibility is it to learn from the patterns that show up in our lives?

How many times are we going to run away from what we don't like before we realize that we carry it with us?

If a pattern keeps showing up in your life, maybe, just maybe, there is a lesson to be learnt and certainly, the resources are within you to learn the lesson. The Universe sends us teachers and lessons for our own benefit, it may uncomfortable or even painful. The more we avoid the lessons the greater the discomfort becomes until there comes a point when the pain of the lessons is less than the pain of learning it. Why wait to take action? This is the time to do something new and embrace who you really are.

This is the time to welcome the teachers and the lessons with gratitude.

This is the time to stop taking it personally.

This is the time to create a meaningful life.

This is the time to release your full potential.

Want what you ask for and ask for what you want

I met someone today who was really upset. Her problem was not an unusual one: "she got what she wanted...too soon and she wasn't ready for it.

After a short chat we were able to agree this strange situation was happening with regularity. This person is manifesting in her life with great effectiveness, both things she wants and things she doesn't want. She is also manifesting fast, to the point that sometimes, like this morning, she was still in the process of making adjustments for the new situation and it caught her unprepared.

The Law of Attraction works like that, it always delivers what we ask for, when we ask for it. If we look around ourselves we will be able to see what we are attracting into our lives; for most people this means a range of things, some of them we like and some of them we dislike. The question is: what are we going to do about the things we dislike?

One option is to leave all as it is, another one is to make changes, move from the position of bring a victim to the position of responsibility with full knowledge of our unlimited potential and taking advantage of it. For this we need to use intention and focus. Intention helps us connect with the source of universal energy and focus gives us direction. When this happens, we are in a position to allow things to come to us with full knowledge and preparation.

Enough of this. I'm off to do some conscious manifesting.

When preparation meets opportunity you get...

Success!
James Scott is living proof of this. In case you don't know, he is an Australian snowboarder who has qualified for the Winter Olympic Games in Vancouver. That is a big deal for anyone who does sports seriously. Imagine if you are a 15-year old person. And keep imagining that you only get the chance to compete because someone else had the misfortune to pull out through injury... if you surpass your best ever performance in official competition... thousands of miles from where you currently are and... in less than 48 hours to do it!
Young James was ready and he grabbed his chance with both hands.
If opportunity knocked on your door, would you:
1- Tell it to come back later?
2- Open the door and go for it?

If you don't know where you are going...

...how are you going to ensure that you arrive somewhere you like?

I have just completed a training course on energy healing. Intention Focused Therapy (IFT). I have been reminded about a number of things that I knew I knew. One of them is that we are all co-creators of our life. If we look around ourselves, we can see all the people and things that we have helped bring into our living sphere. The thing is: how did we create that? Did we notice what we were doing? What other life do we really want to create?

Just by asking the questions we can get the sense of empowerment because, all of a sudden it stops being a question of helplessly witnessing events taking place and it becomes a matter of taking deliberate action to awaken our resources and putting them to work to their full potential. Simple, huh?

I have allowed things to happen, there is no question about that. I have permitted into my life, things that I would have rejected if I had been aware.

This is my commitment to myself: From now on, I am an active agent in the co-creation of my best life. With intention and focus. I am connecting to the Universal Source and asking for what I want in my life. I am practicing Intention Focused Therapy for my benefit and that of others.

With intention and focus from heart centered consciousness.

Three keys to happiness

My son has taught me many lessons, so many that sometimes I wonder if he came to this world to help me get things sorted out. The truth is that I am a better person since he arrived. In March 2009, when he was 5 years old we were driving to meet some family members and I commented that I had been grumpy lately. He immediately said that the reason for this was my forgetting how to be a kid.

Intrigued by his words, I asked what it was that I had forgotten: he said that all kids know how to be happy.

Okay, and how can you be happy? His reply was quick and without hesitation; there are three things that you need to be happy:

1- Believe what is true
2- Relax (big time, I thought)
3- Help yourself and help others

I stopped the car and started taking notes. I am getting good at recognizing learning opportunities, you see? I am applying the three keys to happiness in my life and I have to admit that I feel happier. The hardest one to do seems to be number 1. Relaxing and helping are things that I am able to manage a little better.

I am also working on separating what is real from what is made up and I have come to accept that there are many times when I insist on believing unbelievable stuff, just because I am very good at convincing myself of practically anything. The problem is that once you have made a decision on the reality of something, you are committed and this makes you do things that take you away from happiness. I know I'm not the only one. This is why I decided to follow my mission to help people be the best they can be; I realize that when I do that and choose to believe what helps me along my mission path, I am happier, I have a clear direction and I am able to say yes to what is real.

Now I am starting to accept that we are all meant to be happy and that we can if we follow our feelings; simply put, what makes you unhappy is likely to be a limiting program that takes you away from your true essence.

I choose to believe that my son is right and i am happier for that. So are my clients and the people around me. What do you believe? How relaxed are you? How much attention are you paying to your needs and those of others?